ActiveVoice: You're proud of them - are they proud of you?
Tuesday, June 19, 2018
Written by Melissa Gordon, Rangatahi Regional School Director
Term two is the busiest term of the school year in regards to sporting events across the Bay of Plenty calendar.
Last week was the Bay of Plenty Rippa Rugby event in Paengaroa where 24 teams represented their regions and competed for the ultimate prize of Bay of Plenty Rippa Rugby Champions!
The weather provided fantastic conditions, Paengaroa provided the perfect venue and there were a collaboration of different organisations on hand to make sure the day ran smoothly. Bay of Plenty Rugby, Sport Bay of Plenty, teachers, parents and volunteer referees who all came from varying backgrounds with different life experiences sharing one thing they all have in common - a love for sport.
Playing sport has a lot of benefits for children it helps them develop physical skills, get exercise, make friends, have fun, learn to play as a member of a team, learn to play fair, and improve self-esteem. We know it is important to remember that the attitudes and behaviour taught to children in sport carry over to adult life. Parents should take an active role in helping their child develop good sportsmanship. To help your child get the most out of sport, you need to be actively involved and supportive.
This may include:
• Emphasizing effort, improvement and enjoyment over winning or personal performance.
• Attending games and talking about them afterwards.
• Having realistic expectations for your child.
• Learning about the sport and supporting your child's involvement.
• Helping your child handle disappointments and losing.
• Displaying respectful spectator behaviour.
• Overall, by being positive and encouraging.
It is also important to talk about what your child observes at sports events. When bad sportsmanship occurs, discuss other ways the situation could be handled. While you might acknowledge that in the heat of competition it may be difficult to maintain control and respect for others, it is important to stress that disrespectful behaviour is not acceptable.
Speaking of behaviour, we've all seen crazy sports parents—if not on the side-lines of our kids games, at least in the news. None of us would admit to being one but if you recognize yourself or your child in some of these behaviours, it's time to wonder if you are helping your young athlete, and being a positive role model for them.
• You're 100% convinced your kid will play professionally one day.
• Your child often argues with his coach or with officials (and you back him up).
• When games don't go your child's way, you spend hours analyzing what happened (and blaming others for messing things up).
• You put in more coaching time than the actual coach.
• You expect your child to succeed at all costs. He should shake off injuries and do whatever it takes to win.
Do any of these sound familiar? If so, it's time to take a giant step back before your child gets injured, burned out, or so fed up with your behaviour that your relationship is damaged and they give up sport all together or even worse they too inherit these behaviours when they are older.
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